INFP Introverts: The 64-Color Box

“My freshman year of college, I took the Myers-Briggs personality test. Four letters—INFP—and the computer printed eight pages about me (Introvert-Intuitive-Feeling-Perceiving). I still remember one section of the printout because it resonates so well with me. INFPs, it said, vacillate between two primary desires. Some days, we are monks. We dig up our insides like gardens. We sit by ourselves on the porch and write. We leave parties early to be alone. Other days, we are explorers: We create new projects, foster new ideas. We busy ourselves with hard work. We want to change the world.”

Continue reading “Saving Moments”

I’d been living in London when my world turned upside down and I’d had to come home. By the time my plane landed back in Sydney, all I had left was a carry on bag full of clothes and a world of troubles. No one to welcome me back, no place to call home. I was a tourist in my hometown.

Standing there in the arrivals terminal, watching other passengers meeting their waiting friends and family, with open arms and smiling faces, hugging and laughing together, I wanted someone out there to be waiting for me. To be happy to see me. To smile at me. To hug me.

So I got some cardboard and a marker and made a sign. I found the busiest pedestrian intersection in the city and held that sign aloft, with the words “FREE HUGS” on both sides.

And, for 15 minutes, people just stared right through me. The first person who stopped tapped me on the shoulder and told me how her dog had just died that morning. How that morning had been the one year anniversary of her only daughter dying in a car accident. How what she needed now, when she felt most alone in the world, was a hug. I got down on one knee, we put our arms around each other and, when we parted, she was smiling.

Everyone has problems and, for sure, mine haven’t compared. But to see someone who was once frowning smile, even for a moment, is worth it every time.

—Juan Mann

“There is always something to do. There are hungry people to feed, naked people to clothe, sick people to comfort and make well. And, while I don’t expect you to save the world, I do think it’s not asking too much for you to love those with whom you sleep, share the happiness of those whom you call friend, engage those among you who are visionary, and remove from your life those who offer you depression, despair, and disrespect.” —Nikki Giovanni

“INFPs. They wonder, some of them for the rest of their lives, whether they are okay. They are quite okay, just different from the rest of their family—swans reared in a family of ducks. Even so, to realize and really believe this isn’t easy for them.” —David Keirsey

“Imagine how beautiful the world would be if we could all just get along,” the Idealistic INFP contemplates.

Their internal focus concentrates on how they feel about things, and decisions are made accordingly. Externally, their highly developed intuition affirms these altruistic beliefs.

More than other intuitive types, they focus on making the world a better place. The INFP begins this admirable mission by searching out the answers to what life really means and then culminating these findings into a clear purpose and active ways to better serve humanity. Based on these findings, they re-evaluate the path they are traveling, deciding whether to keep going straight or change course; always with the ultimate goal in mind—the good of all. Intuition, idealism, and perfectionism are the drivers that help them achieve goals to that end.

They are natural mediators, solving other people’s problems without a hitch. INFPs are flexible and laid-back—until their values are placed into question. That’s when they come out fighting, aggressively defending their position or cause. A cause is different than a mere project to them. It’s something they passionately believe in and have worked out every detail to back up their position. Mundane details leave them cold.

Decisions based just on facts don’t sit well with them. Their global feelings don’t coincide with the use of hard logic. This skill can be cultivated if you try hard enough but it’s not something they embrace.

On the flip side, when emotionally stressed, they may throw out erroneous fact after fact to back up their often illogical outbursts.

INFPs benefit from thinking twice, taking deep breaths, whatever they need to do to calm themselves, before it gets to this extreme.

Being the perfectionist creates a tendency to be his or her own worst critic. They may have problems working in a group because the other members may not be as committed and diligent as the INFP. In other situations, giving it more than their best shot is admirable, but here, they may appear to be control happy.

Combating these negatives is one of balancing their high ideals with the rigors of everyday living. It is important to resolve this dichotomy for their peace of mind and happiness. They’re bent on giving back in hands-on situations rather than in a more concrete logical way. This type of attribute also makes them more comfortable writing about their feelings than telling someone how much they care.

Because they write so well, they may be drawn to this creative outlet as a career, or consider counseling, teaching or social services as a fit.

“You didn’t hear a word I said”—that’s not something anyone will ever say to an INFP. They listen intently, believing it’s the thoughtful thing to do.

This act of caring puts people at ease and makes the INFP a trusted friend and confidante. Although it’s not always easy for them to express their feelings, they are genuinely concerned, warm and understanding. He or she tries to avoid conflicts but when it’s a necessity, they come from a feeling perspective, rather than placing blame. This is all well and good, but the INFP needs to be aware that sometimes this stance makes them appear to be too emotional and rather irrational.

They have everything it takes to accomplish great things and to become better and better with each passing day.

“Traditional Healers are either born with their gifts or have spent much time developing their gifts. Every tribe has some form of traditional healing for their people. The concept behind Native American healing is much different than Western medicine. Native Americans looked at the person as a whole and treated the individual’s entire person instead of focusing on just the illness or ailment. As many of you know, Native Americans believe that everything is interconnected—nature, plants, animals, the Earth, sky and so on. Many Native Americans believe that everything has a spirit. If a person had an illness it was thought to be due in part to a spiritual problem.” more…

“The Hawaiians look at things in terms of energy flow, following the idea that an idea or belief can block energy flow as much as muscle tension can. Lomilomi helps release the blockages, whilst at the same time giving the energy new direction. Thus Lomilomi is not just a physical experience, it also facilitates healing on the mental, emotional and spiritual levels as well. The Hawaiians view all aspects of the body as one and believe that the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual are all part of the ‘whole’ self. When healing occurs on one level, it impacts on all levels. Rather than viewing the client as someone to ‘be fixed,’ a Lomilomi practitioner views each person as a being to be assisted in returning to harmony and balance. It is important to remember that the practitioner does not heal but is the facilitator for the healing, creating a safe place for the healing to occur.” more…

INFPs (Healer Idealists) are found in only one percent of the general population though, at times, their idealism leaves them feeling even more isolated from the rest of humanity.*

Empaths
This Gift With People
The Power of Intuition
Society’s Canaries
Stand Up and Show Your Soul

“If the healer is the one who heals us all, who heals the healer?”

The Listeners
Cancer Survivor Learns How to Say “No”
Speak Your Mind, Even if Your Voice Shakes
Empaths
The Black Sheep/Going Against the Grain
The Monastic Option
Loneliness
How I Healed Myself
Innerspace
Healing the Healer
Caring for Unmet Needs
Are You Mature?

“As the firstborn and first grandson, I was generally the center of attention in my family. Very early, I came to feel that the praise my mother and other relatives lavished on me was the warmest thing in the world. I used it to be self-centered and superior, to feel I should be waited on and adored. If persons outside my family didn’t treat me the way my family did, I saw them as mean and cold. It never occurred to me that I had an obligation…”

Continue reading “Coldness, Warmth & Mistakes”

“Before I met Aesthetic Realism, whenever I saw a very poor person, I am sorry to say that, rather than having compassion, I was angry that I had to think about him at all. I was economically fortunate and didn’t want to think about other people’s suffering. I used the fact that I was pained in other ways to feel I had a right to be unfeeling both to people I knew and those I didn’t know. The greatest kindness was shown to me when Eli Siegel taught me that I had to want to know the feelings, including the pain, of other people in order to like myself.”

Continue reading “What Does a Person Deserve?”

“Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things connect.” —Chief Seattle

The last piece of advice is to cultivate a sense of empathy. We live in a culture that discourages empathy. A culture that too often tells us our principle goal in life is to be rich, thin, young, famous, safe, and entertained. A culture where those in power too often encourage these selfish impulses.

There’s a lot of talk in this country about the federal deficit. But I think we should talk more about our empathy deficit—the ability to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes; to see the world through those who are different from us—the child who’s hungry, the laid-off steelworker, the immigrant woman cleaning your dorm room.

The fact that you’re here and participating in Campus Progress means that most of you have already done this better than most ever will. But, as you go on in life, cultivating this quality of empathy will become harder, not easier. There’s no community service requirement in the real world; no one forcing you to care. You’ll be free to live in neighborhoods with people who are exactly like yourself, and send your kids to the same schools, and narrow your concerns to what’s going in your own little circle.

They will tell you that the Americans who sleep in the streets and beg for food got there because they’re all lazy or weak of spirit. That the inner-city children who are trapped in dilapidated schools can’t learn and won’t learn and so we should just give up on them entirely. That the innocent people being slaughtered and expelled from their homes half a world away are somebody else’s problem to take care of.

I hope you don’t listen to this. I hope you choose to broaden, and not contract, your ambit of concern. Not because you have an obligation to those who are less fortunate, although you do have that obligation. Not because you have a debt to all of those who helped you get to where you are, although you do have that debt.

It’s because you have an obligation to yourself. Because our individual salvation depends on collective salvation. And because it’s only when you hitch your wagon to something larger than yourself that you will realize your true potential—and become full-grown.

—Source

“INFPs are very aware of social injustice and empathize with the underdog. Their empathy for the underdog and hyper-awareness of social injustice makes them extremely compassionate and nurturing…”*

“INFPs have the ability to see good in almost anyone or anything. Even for the most unlovable the INFP is wont to have pity.”*

“A key word for this type is ‘empathy.’ INFP children will often be the ones to ask their parents why they didn’t give the homeless man spare change, or why that woman is crying.”*

“Cynics are only happy in making the world as barren for others as they have made it for themselves.” —George Meredith

“Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The trouble-makers. The round heads in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules and they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify, or vilify them. But the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And, while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do.” —Jack Kerouac

“Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they’ve been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact. It’s an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It’s a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing.” —Richard Bullock

“The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore, all progress depends on the unreasonable man.” —George Bernard Shaw

“No pessimist ever discovered the secret of the stars, or sailed to an uncharted land, or opened a new doorway for the human spirit.” —Helen Keller

“Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.” —Eleanor Roosevelt

“Great things are not accomplished by those who yield to trends and fads and popular opinion.” —Jack Kerouac

Do not lose heart. We were made for these times. I’ve heard from so many recently who are deeply and properly bewildered, concerned about the state of affairs in our world right now. Ours is a time of almost daily astonishment and often righteous rage over the latest degradations of what matters most to civilized, visionary people. You are right in your assessments.

The lustre and hubris some have aspired to while endorsing acts so heinous against children, elders, everyday people, the poor, the unguarded, the helpless, is breathtaking. Yet I urge you, ask you, gentle you, to please not spend your spirit dry by bewailing these difficult times. Especially do not lose hope. Most particularly because, the fact is ‘we were made for these times’. Yes. For years, we’ve been learning, practicing, training and just waiting to meet on this exact plain of engagement.

I grew up on the Great Lakes and recognize a seaworthy vessel when I see one. Regarding awakened souls, there have never been more able crafts in the waters than there are right now across the world. And they are fully provisioned and able to signal one another as never before in the history of humankind. Look out over the prow; there are millions of boats of righteous souls on the waters with you. Even though your veneers may shiver from every wave in this stormy roil, I assure you that the long timbers composing your prow and rudder come from a greater forest.

For many decades, worldwide, souls just like us have been felled and left for dead in so many ways over and over brought down by naivete, by lack of love, by being ambushed and assaulted by various cultural and personal shocks in the extreme. We have a history of being gutted, and yet remember this especially, we have also, of necessity, perfected the knack of resurrection.

Over and over again we have been the living proof that that which has been exiled, lost, or foundered can be restored to life again. In any dark time, there is a tendency to veer toward fainting over how much is wrong or unmended in the world. Do not focus on that. There is a tendency too to fall into being weakened by persevering with what’s outside our reach, what cannot yet be. Do not focus there. That’s spending the wind without raising the sails. We are needed, that is all we can know.

Ours is not the task of fixing the entire world all at once, but of stretching out to mend the part of the world that is within our reach. Any small, calm thing that one soul can do to help another soul, to assist some portion of this poor suffering world, will help immensely. It is not given to us to know which acts or by whom, will cause the critical mass to tip toward an enduring good. What is needed for dramatic change is an accumulation of acts, adding, adding to, adding more, continuing. We know that it does not take ‘everyone on earth’ to bring justice and peace, but only a small, determined group who will not give up during the first, second, or hundredth gale.

One of the most calming and powerful actions you can do to intervene in a stormy world is to stand up and show your soul. Soul on deck shines like gold in dark times. The light of the soul throws sparks, can send up flares, builds signal fires, causes proper matters to catch fire. To display the lantern of soul in shadowy times like these—to be fierce and to show mercy toward others, both, are acts of immense bravery and greatest necessity. Struggling souls catch light from other souls who are fully lit and willing to show it. If you would help to calm the tumult, this is one of the strongest things you can do.

—Clarissa Pinkola-Estes

“The souls of people, on their way to earth-life, pass through a room full of lights; each takes a taper—often only a spark—to guide it in the dim country of this world. But some souls, by rare fortune, are detained longer—and have time to grab a handful of tapers, which they weave into a torch. These are the torch-bearers of humanity—its poets, seers, and saints, who lead and lift the race out of darkness, toward the light. They are the law-givers and saviors, the light-bringers, way-showers and truth-tellers and, without them, humanity would lose its way in the dark.” —Plato

“Contrary to popular belief, giftedness is not characterized by high intelligence alone…”*

“On the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, INFP is a rare personality type, found in only about 4% of the general population. Yet, of the possible 16 types, it is the one most frequently found for gifted people. This scarcity, coupled with their extreme intelligence, renders them seldom understood and, thus, rarely validated in relationships. The following material is based on qualitative research involving in-depth interviews with eight highly-gifted INFP adults.

Continue reading “INFP Personality Type in Gifted People”

Characteristics of Gifted Adults
Giftedness Self-Test

Giftedness: There appears to be three sorts of childhoods and three sorts of adult social adaptations. The first of these may be called “the committed strategy.” These individuals were born into upper middle-class families with gifted and well-educated parents and often with gifted siblings. They sometimes even had famous relatives. They attended prestigious colleges, became doctors, lawyers, professors, or joined some other prestigious occupation, and have friends with similar histories. They are the optimally-adjusted. They are also the ones most likely to disbelieve that the exceptionally-gifted can have serious adjustment problems.

The second kind of social adaptation may be called “the marginal strategy.” These individuals were typically born into a lower socio-economic class without gifted parents, gifted siblings, or gifted friends. Often, they did not go to college at all but, instead, went right to work immediately after high school, or even before. And, although they may superficially appear to have made a good adjustment to their work and friends, neither work nor friends can completely engage their attention. They hunger for more intellectual challenge and more real companionship than their social environment can supply. So they resort to leading a double life. They compartmentalize their life into a public sphere and a private sphere. In public, they go through the motions of fulfilling their social roles, whatever they are, but, in private, they pursue goals of their own. They are often omnivorous readers and sometimes unusually expert amateurs in specialized subjects. The “double life strategy” might even be called the genius ploy, as many geniuses in history have worked at menial tasks in order to free themselves for more important work. Socrates, you will remember was a stone mason, Spinoza was a lens grinder, and even Jesus was a carpenter. The exceptionally-gifted adult who works as a parking lot attendant while creating new mathematics has adopted an honored way of life and deserves respect for his courage, not criticism for failing to live up to his abilities. Those conformists who adopt the committed strategy may be pillars of their community and make the world go around but, historically, those with truly original minds have more often adopted the double life tactic. They are ones among the gifted who are most likely to make the world go forward.

And finally there are “the dropouts.” These sometimes bizarre individuals were often born into families in which one or more of the parents were not only exceptionally gifted but exceptionally maladjusted themselves. This is the worst possible social environment that a gifted child can be thrust into. His parents, often driven by egocentric ambitions of their own, may use him to gratify their own needs for accomplishment. He is, to all intents and purposes, not a living human being to them, but a performing animal, or even an experiment. That is what happened to Sidis, and may be the explanation for all those gifted who “burn out” as he did.

Source: TPS

Here’s what I hear:

* sensitive—“must be gay” (am not)
* nice person/genuine
* opinionated but fair-minded (tolerant)
* thinks too much
* not focused
* can get into head trips
* literal learner/thinker (meaning you have to spell it out if it starts getting too abstract like chemistry)
* always late
* stares into space
* not good at understanding other’s motives (am a sucker for what looks like honest emotion and am manipulated this way)
* has a sense of wonder
* great moderator
* brown-noser
* petty
* he’s a good guy
* have a hard time asking for what’s mine

I’m an INFP adoptee. Talk about confusing trying to learn who you are. Adopted parents test as ENFJ and INFJ. Birthparents, I believe, are INFP (bmom) and INTP (bfather), but with a lot of childhood damage that was never fixed so they’re a bit strange to me. With my adopted parents, I felt like I was raised in bootcamp, “Hut, hut, hut!” Those J’s are tyrannical. Along with the T’s.

Someone else mentioned it wasn’t okay to be themselves in their family. This was me, also. I became an ENTJ to be okay growing up. Didn’t have a clue who I was until late my 20’s. Thank God I waited until 40 to get married. I would’ve been divorced twice by now.

Was popular in high school. Was the one popular person who also identified with the outcasts. Seemed to find what everyone had in common and built on that.

Started work in Corporate America. Got fired—was too honest when the blame bottle spinned on me. Honesty is NOT the best policy in the working world. Lesson learned.

Can relate to the guy who talked about team sports being somewhat of a struggle. The team-bonding thing is so much easier if you’re an extroverted non-sensitive man.

I dated many women. I always found that they liked me and said what a great father I would be. But did this matter to them? In large part, no. They still married—or got excited about—the alpha, non-emotional, screw-them-in-business, have-an-affair-but-you-get-a-big-lifesyle guys.

I listen to some of them complain about their husbands now but I don’t feel sorry for them. They wanted that. This led me to learn to change the people I hung out with. I agree with someone who said “find people who appreciate you for you.” That’s a great demonstration of good self-esteem and one that took me until 40 to learn.

My wife is also an INFP. It’s not easy being married to someone who’s like you in terms of sexual chemistry. I find the sexual attraction thing more with other personality types—the women T’s and J’s. But, this I learned, had more to do with my associating intimacy with rejection (or someone not getting me).

The sparks weren’t as bright with my wife at first but, man, we are friends through everything. I think that’s the healthier way to go.

Definitely not what you’d see on Oprah. Forget what our culture says about you “just knowing.” It’s bull crap coffee table stuff. I know people who’ve said that and gotten divorced a few years later. Essentially, they married their opposites and it didn’t last. The gulf was too wide. Either that or their marriages didn’t resemble anything more than lifestyle/economic arrangements.

I would say heaven and earth are themes for me—trying to balance the practical with the spiritual. Oh, how I envy those who are comfortable not asking the big questions! Sometimes, I wish I could just go on with my life like they do and work, accumulate, then die—without ever having to get my brain messy. Instead, I’m absorbed with “what did that mean?” over and over.

Still I wouldn’t trade my INFP status. I think the rest of the population needs us to bring things from unreality into reality. We are that bridge. To my way of thinking, it makes them all drones.

I found a way to make money in a niche advertising business where I’m my own boss. I don’t have to dress up, impress a boss, show up for meetings on time or kiss anyone’s ass. I recommend this if you can find it. I think INFPs are sort of scapegoated in groups at work.

Peace to you all.

Related: Male INFPs/HSPs (2)

“I think modern society—especially in the United States—has a set of biases that make it difficult for sensitive men to learn about, and come to terms with, their sensitivity. Apart from those who simply ignore the possibility that they might be a HSM, I think there are also significant numbers who may be aware of their sensitivity, but are hesitant or afraid that anyone else might find out. Sadly, I get the sense that most HS men live lives of quiet suffering—many choosing to ‘narcoticize’ the pain of not fitting in with alcohol, drugs, or other addictions. Maybe you’re an HSM, reading these words. And maybe you’ll recognize yourself, somewhere in all this. In retrospect, I can now look at many ‘choice points’ in my life where my being a HSM had an influence on the…”

Continue reading “Highly-Sensitive Men: The Hidden HSPs?”

“Sometimes I think of us as society’s canaries. I expect you all remember the stories of what happened in the mines in the 19th century. The little canary was taken down the mines in a cage. If the air was putrid (the system stunk), the little bird would die and this would be a warning sign for the miners to get out. Sometimes we, too, take on the attributes of the canary. We are likely to feel bad air perhaps before anyone else has even noticed that the windows are shut. We are likely to get sick and, sometimes, this can be on behalf of so-called normal people. I like to describe us in a positive way by indicating that we are the exquisitely sensitive ones. If you listen to us you may learn something about the air…” —Merinda Epstein

“MBTI types INFP and INFJ are the predominant types in the HSP community…”*

“I have the same problem as Marilyn. We attract people the way honey does bees but they’re generally the wrong kind of people. People who want something from us—if only our energy. We need a period of being alone to become ourselves.” —Montgomery Clift

Empaths not only pick up others’ emotions, they can project emotions that will get picked up by those on the same frequency, as well…

The word “empathy” derives from the Greek words “empatheia” meaning “passion” and “pathein” meaning “to experience, suffer.” According to Merriam-Webster’s online dictionary, “Empathy is the action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner.”

As humans, our empathic skills are always turned on—as with all things, we just need to be open to receiving the messages. It’s like a radio; it may be playing, but are you listening?

If you are a healer, you are always adjusting your frequency like an antenna—just as an empath does—to help others. Not all empaths are sympathetic. Empaths feel emotions of others but do not have to feel sympathy for them. Empaths, for the most part, are compassionate though—with a desire to heal and help others.

One can be an empath from childhood. They are called natural empaths who inherit this ability allowing them to experience in higher frequency of awareness. Some people develop their empathic abilities later in life when they are more aware. Most are right-brained in the sense of using the creative intuitive side of the brain—people who use higher frequencies to connect.

Strong empaths must learn how to discern their own emotions from someone else’s.

There are degrees of empathic abilities which vary from empath to empath. Empaths are always sensitive people.

Empaths not only pick up others’ emotions, they can project emotions that will get picked up by those on the same frequency, as well.

We all have certain degrees of empathic abilities. By this I mean we all have the ability to adjust our emotional bodies with that of someone we are close to—especially if there is a love connection. This does not have to be a romantic connection. When you live with someone—or just love them—you can align your emotional body with theirs and feel their pain. The pain can be physical or emotional.

Being empathic means become one with someone or something else. You can connect with plants, animals, just about anything including the universe itself. It is almost a form of remote viewing. You can read emotions and thoughts through vibrational frequency.

Being able to empathize with people often helps you deal with them. You know what to say and do to keep balanced.

Physical Empathy: One can take on the pain of another, especially in the case of twins, their frequencies are often linked.

Emotional Empathy: Most empaths are more attuned to emotions than thoughts. To be an emotional empath is to experience the emotions of others, the positive and negative, pain and suffering and as well as love and compassion.

We become emotional empaths when we watch a film or TV show. We return to soap operas and TV series such as the latest series of reality shows as part of being emotional empaths. Positive people will hope for a positive outcome in the storyline. For negative people it will be the opposite.

Most of us can turn our empathic abilities on and off as we tape in to the frequencies. But, for others, they seem to have no control over what they experience. Those in control embrace the subject and those not in control feel a loss of power and hate it.

Under stress, awareness is heightened as well as empathic abilities. It is best to pause and go back to the emotions you experienced before the negative ones surfaced—then detach.

If you have empathic gifts, you also want to understand and control what is happening to you—to manage your empathic abilities and not become overwhelmed.

The TV series Star Trek had an episode called “The Empath,” about an alien woman with empathic abilities. The lesson in the program was about overcoming one’s fears. Fears paralyze us, which creates more fear.

To increase empathic abilities, you most open the “right side” of your brain, moving the logical mind aside. Begin with something creative—art, listening to music, meditation, yoga, writing for pleasure, being in nature or in the water, etc.

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“INFPs are very aware of social injustice and empathize with the underdog. Their empathy for the underdog and hyper-awareness of social injustice makes them extremely compassionate and nurturing…”*

“A key word for this type is empathy. INFP children will often be the ones to ask their parents why they didn’t give the homeless man spare change, or why that woman is crying.”*

“…the INFP internally feels his or her life intensely. In the relationship arena, this causes them to have a very deep capacity for love and caring which is not frequently found with such intensity in the other types. The INFP does not devote their intense feelings towards just anyone, and are relatively reserved about expressing their inner-most feelings. They reserve their deepest love and caring for a select few who are closest to them.”*

“INFPs have the ability to see good in almost anyone or anything. Even for the most unlovable the INFP is wont to have pity.”*